What is Sexual Coercion?
Sexual coercion is a subtle but common issue that many people encounter at some point in their lives. It can take many forms, from a stranger who continues to make advances after being rejected, to a partner who reacts negatively when boundaries are set. Recognizing sexual coercion as it happens is an important step toward addressing it and maintaining personal autonomy and respect in relationships.
According to the National Sexual Violence Resource Center, around 1 in 6 women and 1 in 10 men in the United States will experience some form of sexual coercion by their partner or an acquaintance. Being able to recognize sexual coercion will enable you to protect yourself and your partner.
What Is Sexual Coercion?
Sexual coercion occurs when someone feels pressured or obligated to engage in sexual activity rather than choosing to do so freely. This pressure can take the form of comments, expectations, or behavior, and it can arise in interactions with a partner, an acquaintance, or a stranger. Coercion exists on a spectrum and may range from subtle remarks about sexual interest to more overt attempts to influence someone’s decision.
Coercion can also involve situations where sexual behavior is tied to a perceived benefit, such as an employer offering workplace advantages in exchange for sexual favors. Because coercion is not always obvious, it can be difficult to recognize in the moment. At its core, healthy sexual interaction depends on clear, mutual willingness. When that willingness isn’t present, communicating boundaries is an important step in preventing coercive situations.
If you believe you experienced sexual coercion as a child, contact us confidentially.
Is Coercion Sexual Assault?
Although sexual coercion and sexual assault are both forms of sexual violence, they are quite different. Sexual coercion is mental or societal manipulation to give “approval” for a sexual act. Sexual assault does not involve consent – it’s when a person forces themselves on another. There are times when sexual coercion may evolve into sexual assault or even rape when the manipulator doesn’t get their way. However, the two forms of violence are not the same concept.
Examples of Sexual Coercion
There are many different forms of sexual coercion:
- Repeated Attempts: This is a very common tactic, using phrases such as “Please, can we?” or consistently touching your body after you ask them to stop.
- Guilting: Using guilt, pleading “You always say no,” or appearing to be sad or mope when they aren’t getting their way.
- Giving Gifts: This tactic is usually employed by someone in a more powerful position, such as a boss, someone older, or wealthy. This can result in an exchange of sexual favors for money, material gifts, or rewards like a promotion.
- Threats: Threats usually occur after the manipulator isn’t getting their way. Warning that they will go elsewhere for pleasure, will break up with you, or blackmail you by releasing intimate pictures if you don’t do as they ask.
- Supplying Substances: Perpetrators may also use drugs and alcohol as a form of manipulation to inhibit your decision-making skills.
Sexual coercion is a common tactic deployed by adults seeking to exploit children. You can read more about such tactics here.
What to Do If You Are Sexually Coerced
If you have experienced sexual coercion, the most important thing to remember is that it is not your fault. Coercion is a form of sexual violence and is therefore reprehensible. If you or someone you know has been sexually coerced by a person in a position of power, seek justice by contacting us for a free and confidential consultation.