Phil Saviano and Susan Pavlak led separate lives in different states, both fighting for people who ? like them ? had been abused by clergy years ago.
On Wednesday, the former strangers shared a new bond in a Boston hospital as Pavlak donated her kidney to Saviano, who has AIDS.
It all began more than a year ago, when doctors told Saviano, of Roslindale, Mass., that his kidneys were failing. To avoid a life that depended on regular dialysis, Saviano needed a transplant ? and the wait time for a kidney from a non-living donor would be too long.
Saviano, who once led the New England chapter of the, had several friends in the organization who were willing to donate a kidney and went through tests to see if they could be a match. Family members also got tested, but everyone was disqualified.
Earlier this year, the 57-year-old Saviano put out another plea ? this time on SNAP’s national e-mail list. Several more people volunteered to help, including Pavlak, 55, of St. Paul, Minn.
“She did this without even knowing Phil and with knowing very little about him,” said Cyndi Desrosiers, an abuse survivor who lives in Newmarket, N.H.
Desrosiers, who was abused in the same central Massachusetts diocese as Saviano, was the first of his friends to be tested. Another friend, Ann Hagan Webb, also volunteered to help Saviano.
“Nobody deserves one more than he does. He’s fought for all of us,” said Webb, who helps lead SNAP’s New England chapter.
In all, seven clergy abuse survivors were tested, but only Pavlak turned out to be a match. She and Saviano have known each other for less than two months, said Jim Saviano, Phil’s brother.
“Our family is so grateful,” Jim Saviano said, adding that he and other family members were disappointed they couldn’t be donors. “I know the struggle he’s been going through with his AIDS and everything else he’s been going through.”
Pavlak isn’t a member of SNAP, but was on the e-mail list and is friends with SNAP members in Minnesota. As a teenager, she was abused by a former nun who had become a teacher at her Catholic high school. Saviano’s struggle with AIDS was also familiar to Pavlak, who has lost friends to the disease.
She met several of Saviano’s friends Monday at a dinner in the Boston area attended by all seven of the abuse survivors who had volunteered their kidneys, Desrosiers said.
“It was so good for him to spend time with her. Often people don’t meet their donors,” Desrosiers said. “His comment to me was, ‘Now I have to figure out what to do with my life to give back.’ It’s just the kind of person he is.”
Dr. Arthur Matas, director of the University of Minnesota, said people who need kidneys are searching for donors more often through social groups, community groups and religious groups.at the
“Over 80,000 people are waiting for a kidney in the country right now and the waiting times are getting longer and longer,” Matas said. “People on the waiting list are highly motivated to find a living donor.”
Dr. Martha Pavlakis, medical director of kidney and pancreatic transplantation atwhere Pavlak and Saviano had surgery, said Saviano’s prognosis is excellent.
The Boston hospital has done more than a dozen kidney transplants on AIDS patients with promising results. “It works,” Pavlakis said. “Phil has well-controlled HIV. His kidneys are failing, but he’s getting a transplant before having to start dialysis. Pre-dialysis transplants generally do better.”
Saviano and Pavlak’s story has inspired many within the network of those who have survived abuse, said, SNAP’s national director.
“Hundreds of thousands of people have expressed sympathy and compassion for clergy sex abuse victims, but rarely do we see such a generous and literally life-giving sacrifice by someone who suffered so much,” he said.